You Don’t Need To Have It All Figured Out

A Good Place To Start

Reaching out for therapy can bring up all sorts of questions.

Here are some of the things people often ask before getting in touch.

If you can’t find the answer you’re looking for, feel free to get in touch.

Sometimes it’s easier to have a conversation than scroll through another list of questions. If you’d like to chat, you can book a free consultation call and we’ll see whether working together feels like the right next step.

Get in touch

Practical Stuff

  • £60 for a 50-minute session.

  • I offer in-person therapy from my detached therapy room in Ashtead, Surrey. There is private off-road parking and an entrance that isn’t shared by anyone else, providing ultimate privacy.

  • I offer online sessions to clients who need additional flexibility once we’ve started working together.

  • Most clients attend weekly, although fortnightly sessions may be possible depending on your circumstances and goals.

  • We’ll arrange a free introductory call.

    Think of it as a chance to have a conversation before deciding anything. You can tell me a little about what’s been going on, ask any questions, and get a feel for how we could work together.

    If you’d like to continue, we can arrange an initial session and take it from there.

Getting Started


How do I know if therapy is right for me?

You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from therapy.

Many people come because something isn’t quite working in their life, relationships or sense of themselves. Others come during periods of change, loss, stress or uncertainty.

You don’t need to have it all figured out before reaching out.


What can I talk about in therapy?

Whatever feels important to you.

People come to therapy for all sorts of reasons, including:

  • Stress and burnout

  • Anxiety

  • Relationships

  • Low self-esteem

  • Grief and loss

  • Family difficulties

  • Life transitions

  • Feeling stuck

  • A general sense that something isn’t quite right


What if I don’t know where to start?

That’s completely fine.

Many people arrive at their first session unsure how to explain what’s going on.

Part of my role is helping us make sense of things together.

You don’t need to prepare anything.


Will you just sit there and nod?

No.

While I won’t tell you what to do, therapy is a collaborative process.

Sometimes I’ll listen carefully. Sometimes I’ll ask questions. Sometimes I’ll reflect patterns, challenge assumptions or help us explore something in more depth.

Every client is different, and we’ll find an approach that works for you.

How I Work

(click a question for the answer)

  • Rather than working from a single model, I draw on different therapeutic approaches depending on your needs.

    The relational part means I pay attention not only to what you talk about, but also to what happens between us in the room.

    Often the way we relate to others can tell us something important about how we’ve learned to navigate the world.

  • No.

    Therapy is offered on an open-ended basis, which means we can regularly review how things are going and decide together what feels right.

    Some people come for a relatively short period of focused work. Others stay longer.

  • I work with adults of all genders, but I have a particular interest in working with men who may be carrying stress, pressure, responsibility or expectations that are difficult to talk about elsewhere.

  • Not at all.

    Some people arrive with a specific issue they want to work on.

    Others simply know that something feels difficult, stuck or disconnected, but can’t quite put it into words.

    Both are welcome.

    Part of therapy can be finding the words for something you’ve been carrying for a long time.

Ready to talk?

Taking the first step can sometimes feel like the hardest part.

Whether you’re carrying something specific or know that something doesn’t feel right, reaching out is often a good place to start.